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The chances are that you'll never be elected President…write the great American novel…or save the world. However valid it may be to work at these goals, there is another one of higher priority — to be an effective parent.
~ Landrum R. Bolling
































Have you ever wondered why the sounds of the words, "chocolate pudding" carry further through the air than the words, "pick up your toys?"
~ Unknown





























You don't get to choose how you're going to die, or when. You can only decide how you're going to live. Now.
~ Joan Baez


























There has never been a day when I have not been proud of you, I said to my son, though some days I'm louder about other stuff, so it's easy to miss that.
~ Brian Andreas, StoryPeople















































Could I turn back the time machine, I would double the attention I gave to my children and go to fewer meetings.
~ J.D. Eppinga















































The most important thing she'd learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.
~ Jill Churchill





































The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.
~ Erich Fromm
 


Parent Coaching

At this time, Cindy is unable to accept new coaching clients. Please check back later.

What is Parent Coaching?
How Will Parent Coaching Benefit Me?
How Does Parent Coaching Work?
Is Coaching Like Counseling?
Who Hires a Parent Coach?
Do I Need a Parent Coach?
What Should I Expect from Coaching With Cindy?
Out of All the Coaches Out There, Why Should I Pick Cindy?
What Are the Coaching Options and Fees?
Is the Investment Really Worth It?
How your payment for parent coaching will be used


What is Parent Coaching?

It is the most powerful support system available to help today's busy parents. It's a partnership with an experienced professional that enables you to create exactly what you want in your family life, faster and easier than you can by working alone.
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How Will Parent Coaching Benefit Me?

With Cindy as your parent coach, you will:
1. Increase your child's display of respect and responsibility
2. Decrease the hassles over chores, homework, TV, bedtime, etc.
3. Increase time for family fun and relaxation
4. Decrease whining, arguing, bickering, tantruming
5. Increase childhood compliance
6. Decrease childhood defiance

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Increase the likelihood your child will think first
8. Decrease the likelihood of having to repeat yourself
9. Increase your child's self-esteem
10. Decrease your parental concerns
In short, with Cindy as your parent coach, you will implement positive, loving parenting strategies to achieve your personal family goals (not someone else's).
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How Does Parent Coaching Work?


Simple. You decide on the family life issues for which you'd like support, and Cindy provides the tools, techniques, and strategies necessary to get you to where you want to be with your children. Through regularly scheduled phone conversations and unlimited, briefer contacts in between, she will help you articulate and achieve your parenting goals, all from the comfort and convenience of your own home, on your own time schedule. It doesn't get any easier or more powerful than this!
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Is Coaching Like Counseling?

No. Coaching is not therapy. We don't spend time in the past; we focus on the present and future. Counseling is about healing and fixing; coaching is about results — getting clear on your values and intentions, setting goals, reaching them, and moving forward.

In other words, coaching is not about how you got here, it's about where you're going.
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Who Hires a Parent Coach?

Cindy's clients are typically…
college-educated professionals (or past professionals currently staying home)
very involved with their children's school
very busy with family activities
healthy, both physically and emotionally
happy and successful

Cindy's clients typically want…
simple solutions for common parenting headaches
less family stress and more family peace
new parenting ideas, skills, and techniques
happy, healthy, loving kids
and more time!

Parenting today is tough…
Wise people hire a parent coach when they decide to stop tolerating  the daily energy drains that many people accept as simply coming  with the territory.
Busy people who want increased skills, lasting solutions, and more  respectful, loving relationships hire a parent coach to ensure they  close the gap between where they are and where they wish to be.
Growth-oriented people who work at creating family joy and  fulfillment hire a parent coach in order to achieve outstanding results  for their parenting efforts.
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Do I Need a Parent Coach?

Probably not. That you care enough about your family life to consider employing the powerful support of a parent coach means you must already be a great parent. Cindy's tag line doesn't say, "helping parents." It says, "helping great parents…" The question, then, becomes, do you want a parent coach? Let the answers to the following questions help you decide.

1. Do you keep getting annoyed or frustrated by recurring issues?
2. Do you want to improve the quality of your family relationships?
3. Do you ever feel like your children just don't listen?
4. Do you wish you had more mealtimes together?
5. Do you want less arguing and back talk, and more pleasant compliance?
6. Do you think your children should express more gratitude?

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Do you ever feel a little embarrassed by your child's public disrespect toward you?
8. Do you keep finding there just isn't enough time to fit in all the good stuff?
9. Do you speak to your children at home in ways you would not in public?
10. Do you ever wonder if you're doing it "right?"

How many questions do you think require a "yes" answer before you decide to take uncommon action to achieve extraordinary results?
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What Should I Expect from Coaching With Cindy?

As your coach, Cindy will provide you with the parenting help you want. She will offer support, inspiration, tools, strategies, collaboration, structure, direction, accountability, enthusiasm, and results — if you are willing to work for them.

You can expect her to probe, listen (to what you are saying, are trying to say, and are not saying), challenge, make suggestions, honor your values, ask you to look at situations differently, and offer ideas and techniques that will help you create the kind of family life you want.

Cindy will ask tough questions, point out her observations, and cheer you on in your efforts and successes.

Cindy is, and will continue to be, trained as a parent educator and coach. She is not trained in counseling or psychiatry. She is not a child psychologist or family therapist. If issues come up that are beyond her scope and abilities, she will say so, and will refer you elsewhere.

Cindy will treat the coach/client relationship with complete confidentiality and respect. She will be 100% dedicated to your extraordinary success as a parent and as the leader of your family.
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Out of All the Coaches Out There, Why Should I Pick Cindy?

1. Unlike almost every other coach on the planet (literally — shop around and see for yourself) Cindy is strictly a parenting coach. She is not a life coach who also happens to include parent coaching on a long list of "specialties."
2. Cindy is an expert in the Love & LogicTM philosophy of developing children, with a specialty in helping parents raise kids who are responsible, respectful, and fun to have around.
3. Cindy is passionate about one thing in life: helping great parents raise great kids.
4. Cindy has extensive experience working with hundreds of families for nearly two decades.
5. Cindy is currently in the trenches of parenting. She is not a "been there, done that"-type. She's an "I hear ya, we'll lick this together,"-type.
6. Clients describe Cindy as honest, direct, passionate, transparent, knowledgeable, professional, dedicated, humorous, enthusiastic, "real," and supportive.
7. Cindy is constantly learning new things about parenting and family life, and she loves to share them with others.
8. Cindy will help you implement what you've learned in your reading, in the parenting classes you've taken, in ways that fit your personal values.
9. Cindy happily gives away a ton of time and information.
10. Cindy firmly believes that helping parents is how she is to serve the Lord, and that is her bottom line.

Having said all that, you should definitely shop around before hiring a parent coach. Visit the International Coach Federation web site ( www.coachfederation.org) and check out their referral list. See who you "click" with, who understands your issues, and who has the skills to help in the way that is most beneficial to you.
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What Are the Coaching Options and Fees?

The most common structure in the coaching industry today is three, one-on-one 30-minute sessions per month. However, some people like to coach for longer sessions, some want to coach with their spouse, and still others prefer the group coaching option. There is even an option called "Spot Coaching," wherein you are not committed to a regular schedule and you just call when an issue pops up for which you'd like some support.

Consider your needs and how much time, effort and money you are willing to invest in your parenting as you look over the coaching options below.

Standard One-On-One Coaching (or Both Parents Together)
Two 30-minute sessions per month: $75/month
Three 30-minute sessions per month: $100/month (most popular)
Two 60-minute sessions per month: $175/month
Three 60-minute sessions per month: $200/month (for those ready reach goals quickly)

Group Coaching
You might prefer this fun and economical way of coaching with a group of friends or acquaintances (playgroup, neighbors, soccer team moms, etc.)

We utilize a conference call line and coach around a particular subject, suggested ahead of time by members of the group. The group selects 30- or 60-minute sessions, two or three times per month, at a rate of $100/hour ($50/half hour) total.

Example: 5 moms from the PTA group decide to coach for three one-hour sessions per month. The total fee is $300/month, but each parent pays only $60. That's a savings of nearly $150 off the individual hour-long coaching rate!

Spot Coaching
Let's say things are going along smoothly and all the sudden your child throws you a curve ball, such as getting caught smoking in the high school parking lot. You will benefit from feedback from an outside specialist who is not emotionally invested before you decide what to do. Or say there's a recurring issue you can't seem to get a handle on, no matter what you try, like chronic potty mouth. Your "spot coach" can bounce ideas around with you and help you come up with a solution that will work.

Spot coaching is for people who don't want to commit to a coaching schedule, but still want the benefit of a parent coach on an "as-needed" basis. The fee for this type of coaching is $100/hr ($50/half hour).
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Is the Investment Really Worth It?

That's a great question, and a personal one. It can help to compare the cost of coaching to the cost of other common expenses.

Typical car payment: at least $300/month (Coaching costs less.)
Typical overnight summer camp: $500/week (Coaching costs less.)
Typical family vacation: $3,000/year (Coaching costs a lot less because most people coach for only a few months, so they never rack up the expense equivalent to even one family vacation, yet they gain a whole new approach to peaceful family dynamics.)

Is the investment really worth it? Only you can decide. What is it worth to you? Or looking at it another way, what is it costing you to not hire a parenting coach?

Safety net: if you are not more than satisfied with coaching after the first month, you will be refunded 100% of the coaching fee. That is a guarantee that makes coaching financially risk-free. None of the common expenses above fit that bill.
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How Your Payment for Parent Coaching Will be Used

Have you seen the mind-boggling estimates that we’ll have twenty million AIDS orphans in Africa by the year 2010? Twenty million? Here’s a vivid description that enabled me to grasp how much twenty million actually is: imagine a single grain of salt as one child. If you place the grains, one by one, into a one-cup measure, when the cup is full you will have accounted for 5% of the orphans. Can you believe that? We need twenty cups of salt to have enough grains to equal twenty million children. (And that’s only those who are orphaned due to AIDS. It doesn’t even count those orphaned due to myriad other diseases and unrelenting famine.)

So I asked myself what we’re supposed to do with information like this, and I didn’t have an answer. When I read James 2:14-16

(“…Suppose you see a brother or sister who has no food or clothing, and you say… ‘stay warm and eat well,’ but then you don’t give that person any food or clothing. What good does that do?”)
I said to myself, “Yes, but what can I do?” and the idea sent to me was, “Give them your coaching money.” So that’s what I’m doing. All of my coaching fees will now go to www.hugsforchildren.org. This organization uses 100% of its donations to directly impact the orphans; no salaries or administration costs are paid for through donations. In this way, I can take care of some of those grains of salt. And now, you can, too, without having to simply donate to one more cause. While getting support for your own parenting, you will be supporting children who have been left to raise themselves, and who have needs so desperate we can’t even begin to understand them. I hope you will join my other clients who now pay H.U.G.S. instead of me for my service.

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I feel empowered again, like I AM in control of the situation, whereas before I felt really out of control with no options.

L.G.
Realtor/Loan Officer
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Cindy helped me find a solution for tantrums that honored my Biblical approach to parenting.   (More)

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As my coach she cut to the chase and helped me clearly see what I needed to do to encourage more responsibility in my children.   (More)

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Mother of 3
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Without a parent coach, I'm a great mom, but Cindy's support helps keep me grounded and balanced so I remember to take care of myself, too!

C.C.
"Soccer Mom" Extraordinaire!


































Just as important, Cindy helps me discover who I am as "Mom," and she keeps me accountable to the legacy I want to leave for my children.
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PTA President
Soccer Club President Small Business Owner Mother of 3

























She communicates personal interest in the participants' issues...in a non-threatening fashion…   (More)

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Cindy is an outstanding educator who has been uniquely gifted to lead parents (and teachers) to better relationships with their children, and to create more peaceful home and school environments.   (More)

L.D., Principal

 
By contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against such things.
~ Galatians 5:22, 23
Cindy Horst, M.A., Parent Coach & Consultant, Love & Logic Specialist

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